Monday, August 9, 2010

Change the Way You Think 4

Typically our actions are governed by our feelings and not by our ability to use logic and reason. In other words we do what we want to do and not what we need to do. You will agree with me when you think of all your impulse buys, most of your spur-of-the-moment actions and reactions; when you think of the arguments that you have had and afterwards you wished you had handled them better and with more thought. How often did you regret those impulse buys and the spur-of-the-moment decisions?
STOP! THINK! That's the answer. Stop and step back from the decision and think. Think of the outcome that you want to achieve and ask yourself if the decision that you almost made is the right one. Think of its implications, how it will affect you and those close to you. Most importantly think if what you want to do fulfils your needs too. If your wants are not the same as your needs decide in favor of your needs. If this makes you feel bad, disappointed, sad or frustrated, change the feeling.
Actually this is one of the most important steps in any form of change work: change your feelings. Once you can do it, everything else becomes much easier and easier and easier still. As Carl Jung said:
"Man likes to believe he is the master of his soul, but without mastery over emotions and feelings, we are still wandering in a wilderness in which only logical facts contain meaning."
More about it next time.

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